Is Self-Care Truly Selfish?
In a recent conversation with a friend, Jayne opened up about her health struggles. She admitted that she had been putting off a doctor’s visit for far too long, constantly prioritizing work and other responsibilities over self-care.

Luckily, her test results came back relatively unchanged, but she couldn’t help but wonder if she had been neglecting her own well-being for too long. 

This article will explore the myth that self-care is truly selfish. With the demands of modern life rising, many find themselves stretched thin and overwhelmed. 

Putting You First

Remember the air flight instruction of placing the oxygen on yourself first before others? Focusing on external stressors, such as personal relationship stress or the inability to slow down, may obscure the early warning signs of stress.

According to the Mayo Clinic, excessive and prolonged activation of the body’s stress response system, leading to elevated levels of cortisol and other stress hormones, can significantly disrupt various bodily functions.

Such disruptions increase vulnerability to a wide range of health issues, including sleep problems, weight gain, problems with memory and focus, and heart disease, heart attack, high blood pressure, and stroke.

Denial can blind us, making us prioritize other people, places, and things over ourselves and potentially putting our health at risk.

But why do we wait for a wake-up call before taking care of our bodies? Ignoring symptoms and pushing through fatigue can be a dangerous choice, with long-term consequences. It’s time to break free from the superhero mentality and find a balance between caring for others and caring for ourselves.

Set Clear Priorities

So, how do we make self-care a priority? It starts with investing in ourselves. We are all worthy of the love and care we give to others, so it’s essential to reflect on what’s holding us back from taking time for ourselves

Excuses about time and money may seem valid, but it’s worth examining our resources more closely. Nurture your body throughout the day, and remember that the choices we make today affect our future well-being.

Prioritizing what we truly want in life is also essential. We can easily become numb to our own desires, caught up in endless to-do lists and the pursuit of productivity. By setting clear priorities, aligning values, and focusing on what brings us joy, we can reduce stress and find fulfillment.

Make Time For You

Planning is another crucial aspect of self-care. Scheduling “me time” is vital for creating healthy habits. Take a look at your calendar and see how many slots are reserved for yourself. If none are marked off, it’s a warning sign that self-care is lacking. Use breaks as opportunities to stretch, relax, or meditate. Gradually, you can introduce longer periods of self-nurturing into your routine.

Use Self-Care Techniques Regularly

Lastly, tackling stress is key. Find calming techniques that work for you, whether it’s deep breathing, meditation, or using essential oils. There are many ways to implement stress relief into your life. And don’t hesitate to reach out for support when stress becomes overwhelming.

Don’t wait for a life-changing moment to prioritize your health. Begin your self-care journey today and experience the benefits of a balanced and fulfilling life. You deserve it.




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Hi, I'm Lisa



Most women find me when they're tired of managing everything and still feeling like something's missing. 

I found my way to this work the same way, by living it first.

For over two decades, I've worked in health, wellness, and human behavior, first as an occupational therapist, then as a wellness center owner, and now as a self-care strategist for women who are done letting their business run on their nervous system.

I work with women one-on-one, going beneath the surface patterns to the values, boundaries, and identity shifts that actually stick. It's personal, it's grounded, and it moves at the pace your nervous system can actually integrate.

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